Grounded, hopeful and relational
Therapy for Couples
in Grand Rapids, MI and online throughout Michigan
Repair, restore, and regrow connection
to find fulfillment in your relationship again.
Is your relationship getting stuck in the
same painful arguments — or silences — over and over,
even when you both want connection?
When trauma or addiction is part of your story — whether recent or far in the past — it can shape the nervous system, emotional safety, and the very foundation of your relationship.
You know you love each other deeply, but find yourselves caught in cycles of mistrust, shutdown, volatility, or disconnection. Maybe one of you pulls away and the other reaches out in frustration. Maybe you both retreat. Maybe you’re trying everything you can to fix it… only to end up feeling more alone.
Maybe you’ve said things like:
“I never know which version of him I’m going to get.”
“She said it would be different this time.”
“They are always trying to control everything.”
“We’re either walking on eggshells…or blowing up over the smallest things.”
The harder you try at repairing things,
the more it feels like you’re digging
deeper into disconnection.
Therapy for Couples Can Help.
It’s possible to untangle from even the most painful patterns and grow something new.
This work starts with exploring the roots of your conflict, including the deeper emotional needs, nervous system responses, and attachment wounds found underneath them.
Together-With Therapy comes alongside your relationship to:
Unpack the interaction cycles that keep pulling you apart — even when you both want to reconnect
Explore how each partner's history shows up in the present
Practice new ways of communicating that foster empathy, safety, and mutual understanding
Learn to hold space for repair, attunement, and shared growth
Whether you want to navigate years of disconnection,
resolve a recent conflict, or simply deepen your emotional intimacy,
therapy can help you meet one another in a new way —
with calm, curiosity, and compassion.
Through a trauma-informed, attachment-focused,
and inclusive approach to couples therapy,
we will hold your story with honor — not blame.
This isn’t about fixing your partner, or even fixing yourself.
It’s about creating the conditions where
healing becomes possible — together.
You don’t have to keep digging your
relationship out from underneath
protection and disconnection.
It’s possible to bring understanding, openness, and even tenderness to the surface again — or maybe for the very first time.
Click below to schedule your
free consultation today!
FAQ
Curiosity listens to what’s just beneath the surface. Your questions are welcome here.
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A. Sessions are structured but flexible — a space to slow things down and understand what’s really happening beneath conflict or distance. I help translate the reactive cycle into emotional insight and relational repair. We’ll often look at what each partner is experiencing internally, not just what’s being said on the surface. Based on your situation and preferences, common approaches we might us include
EFT (Emotion Focused Therapy)
IFS-informed (Internal Family Systems) therapy
CoherenceTherapy
Motivational Interviewing
Mindfulness-based skill training
Somatic-informed therapy techniques
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A: Sessions are paced thoughtfully, so even in this case we won’t rush toward solutions. We begin by understanding the emotional and nervous system patterns at play, and identifying where safety breaks down. You’ll each have space to explore your experience without blame or shame. I also help both of you learn new ways to respond to each other with care, rather than protection or reactivity.
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A: Yes. Trauma — especially complex or developmental trauma — is at the core of my practice. My work with individuals and couples is dissociation-aware (honoring the ways you have adapted to survive), attachment-focused (addressing relational wounds and needs from long ago), and somatically-informed (using the body as a resource).
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A: I work with couples across the lifespan and identity spectrums — including mixed-attachment styles, neurodivergent partnerships, and those navigating trauma, addiction recovery, grief, infertility or pregnancy grief and loss, parenting struggles, and life transitions.
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A: That’s okay. Sometimes the first step is creating a space where both of you can explore that question honestly, without pressure. My goal is to help you move toward clarity and compassion, wherever that leads.
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A: Click the button below to reach out for a free consultation. I’ll hear more about what’s going on in your relationship, answer your questions, and we’ll decide together whether I’m the right fit to work with you.